Hello my beautiful loves! Today we are gonna get into the importance of self-(like).
I know most of you have probably been on your self-love journey for quite some time now, I mean it never really ends, but instead of striving for unconditional self-love, adoration, and acceptance, let’s simplify this concept and speak on the importance of liking yourself.
To like someone means that you have respect for that person. It means that you value their opinions, thoughts, and uniqueness. Liking another person requires an understanding of that person and why they act the way they do. Applying this notion of “liking” something to ourselves, we can begin to realize where we are falling short in our own lives.
Liking Yourself Requires You To:
Engage in Activities, Habits, and Decisions That Create Self-Respect
When you take action and make decisions in your day-to-day, your brain sees you and it responds to you according to the choices you make. Your brain literally creates a personal identity around your lifestyle. If you don’t like yourself it’s likely because you don’t like the actions that you take every day, and you have an identity surrounding your habits that continually reinforce negative behaviors.
Purify Your Mind
Become aware of negative thoughts you think about yourself. You are the controller of your mind, not the other way around. To cultivate more self-like in your life, you must become really intimate with your mental activities and work to create new thoughts that are more in alignment with how you would prefer to be.
Create a “Dream-Self”
Get extremely visual and emotional about how your “dream-self” acts daily, how they move through challenges, and how they love themselves. Ask yourself, “What would the most loving version of yourself act like?” Determine that and become it.
Break Out of Your Comfort Zone
Your comfort zone is built out of habits you are used to experiencing. To grow, you must outgrow your comfort zone by taking risks, challenging yourself, and seeking new experiences. Through challenges, you see how you can rise in the face of adversity and overcome any situation successfully. This builds self-confidence and when you are confident, you like yourself and do not need anyone else to affirm you.
Spend Time Developing Your Relationship with Yourself
Sitting with yourself without any distraction is incredibly important because it allows you to analyze your mind, to understand the story of YOU. As you become familiar with your “personal story,” you can change it consciously into a story that you choose.
The Most Important Element of Liking Yourself
The most important element of liking yourself is the ability to show compassion towards old aspects of yourself. You contain remnants of who you used to be in the past, and the person you were in the past might still be traumatized and is showing up in your reality as negative thoughts, anxieties, and behaviors that are not to your liking. In order to soothe your younger self, become nurturing. Embody the “mother energy.”
Mother Energy
“The energy that loves us no matter what we do. This is the highest, most divine love of all.” A child needs this perfect love to survive.
Childhood Trauma and How It Impacts Our Ability to Like Ourselves
Understand, please, that if you have not faced your wounded inner child, then you will continue to feel unsafe, think negatively, and dislike yourself. We have all been through trauma. Even in the most loving households, children still experience trauma that makes it difficult for them to accept themselves. We experience trauma when we feel like we are responsible for our parent’s anger, if we feel like we have been rejected or neglected, if we feel like we have messed up and received a negative outburst from our caretaker.
When we are children, we lack the psychological intelligence necessary to separate ourselves from our caretakers. We quite literally depend on them for survival, which is why we get traumatized at a very young age. Trauma creates a deep wound that will play out its energy in various circumstances, conversations, and relationships with other people until we are brave and wise enough to confront the little hurt child within and provide it with “motherly love and care.” We must be able to nurture ourselves in order to properly heal and feel worthy.
So please be gentle with yourself. Gift yourself with compassion, kindness, grace, and patience. Be the mother you deserve, that only you can be.
